The Ugly Truth Behind Online Dating
Online dating started great in late 1990s when most people didn’t even have a connection to Internet or computers at home. At that time, the people joining dating sites were educated early adopters. Users of first Internet personals were passionate, smart and willing to try new things.
The second decade of the third millennium offers a different landscape. The ease of connections typical of the early days is still there and there is no longer disbelief whether relationships that start online could be fulfilling and lasting. In fact, statistics show that people who met over Internet marry faster than couples who connected in other ways.
However, users of online dating sites know the ugly truth behind the search for love via World Wide Web. With so many millions profiles listed, the task of finding the right person became harder than 20 years ago. What’s going on?
The ugly truth of online dating
The problem of having too many choices have been proven to give trouble to an individual selector. Research on the topic shows that the wider is the choice, the higher is the chance that a customer will walk out without making a selection.
Today we have thousands of online dating sites and mobile apps that list millions of profiles. Basically every platform offers a basic listing for free and often you can contact other users without being a premium member. Which is not a bad thing, but it led to multiple problems.
The major issues of online dating sites are people’s propensity to embellish, widespread scams, and limited amount of information supplied by users.
1. People tend to embellish their profiles.
From lying about their intentions to over edited pictures, you can hardly pinpoint a dating profile that is 100% authentic and straight to the point. Instagram and Facebook trained us to edit our lives, presenting online the best side at the right angle, whether we talk about a recent vacation or personality traits.
2. Dating sites became the workplace and playground for scammers.
From the usual “sudden love followed by a request for money from someone you never met” scenario to the recent spread of “pay per letter” schemes involving foreign brides wanting to chat nights through at $2 a minute, genuine love seekers find it hard to connect with a person who is committed and interested. Users of Internet dating portals seem to be fickle and ambivalent, which gives the chance to scammers to catch their targets off guard.
3. Only limited information available.
Questionnaires of love-seeking portals differ but profiles you view seem to be so cliché. The information you get is limited at best, because hardly ever someone spends hours on a profile. People just click through and pick a couple of attributes from the list, with the need to type 30 words of their own resulting often in deeply thought through messages like, “I don’t really know what to write here, just filling the space.”
Perils of solo seeker
Trying to get through the vast amounts of junk and incomplete profiles along with potential scam listings and questionnaires of people who obviously aren’t that interested can waste a lot of your time. Browsing through search results on dating sites reminds going through an op shop rack in an attempt to locate something at least half decent.
But if you are seeking a serious relationship that can last a lifetime, you don’t want half decent. You want to meet someone exceptional.
That’s why personalized matchmaking is the fastest growing segment of the dating industry today.
Online dating gave us a great choice, but sorting out through this pile is like trying to find a diamond in the rough among rocks. This is why people who are professionals in their fields see value in entrusting their search for a suitable candidate to matchmakers. Just like recruiting companies are excellent in finding right applicants for a job, your matchmaker is able to use their professional know how to deliver the result for you.